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Happy New Year

The start of the New Year is the moment to reflect. So let me take you along to where I am at the moment.At work, things are going really well. Last year I still had multiple roles, but from now on I can fully focus on strategic work. Also, after months of experimenting, we are ready to fully adopt AI in our workflow. It really is amazing what we can do on the level of code generation, but also as a sparring partner. Putting your ideas to AI and then asking it to come up with all possible criticism of your idea is so powerful.
I have never been more prepared for my meetings, ready to answer any question because AI has already asked them of me.

You’re not reading this for my work side, though, it’s all about the kink! When I look back at 2025, I think Mistress and I have fallen a bit into a routine. Of course I listen to her and do whatever she asks; we have a real female-led relationship and we both feel very comfortable in our roles.

I still find it so beautiful that when I do or say something wrong, minutes later the whip comes out and I’m in a world of pain. It really clears my mind to see Mistress point, and that I can only accept it. When I do, the pain stops, and when I kiss her feet, my world makes sense again. Life is so much more beautiful because of the power of the whip. No days of cold war, just pain and forgiveness.

We haven’t played a lot last year, but we did have a few intense moments where I was tied up in my leather body bag with no way to escape. My head secured in the queening chair with Mistress on top of it. My body connected to the electrics and Mistress slowly turning up the dials. Electrics are so powerful, the little box in Mistress’s hands can cause me more pain than I can deal with. When Mistress whips me, at one point, when I accept it and my mind is clear, I drift into subspace and the pain becomes pure bliss.
Electrics are pure torture; I can’t clear my mind, it goes through everything. I know that Mistress is only giving me maybe a maximum of 20%, so there is much more pain that she can give me. It is so powerful knowing that she controls my body, my mind, my pleasure. After all these years I still crave her control over me.

Okay, time to look at 2026, what do I want to change? Not a lot, of course. I know I am living the life many of you dream of. I think it is exactly there that I can improve. Like many subs, I put the responsibility for our dynamic fully in Mistress’s hands. But that is not entirely fair we both are busy with work and the many projects Mistress does. I always say I don’t want to be a brat; I don’t like not doing what Mistress wants, and I am sure she will deal with it severely.

What I can do, and will do, is be more proactive in my servitude. I know what Mistress wants, and I can do it more often before she asks. That will free up her mind for other things.


I think she is the most beautiful person on earth,my Goddess. I should worship her more to let her know she is my everything: my wife, my Mistress, the love of my life.

So yes, this is my reflection on 2025 going into 2026. Let me know yours!

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Finding your female led relationship

Luckily, traditional male-led relationships are becoming less and less the norm. Equality is what most people are seeking—splitting the work and making decisions together as a unit. It sounds great, but it’s not easy to make this work. Life can be simpler when a single person makes the decisions, and as long as that person has the best interests of both partners at heart, it makes perfect sense. Of course, the natural choice for this role is the female partner in the relationship. She is able to care for and steer the relationship in a safe way.

I am so comfortable in my Female-Led Relationship (FLR). Ours is a more intense form of it. Mistress’s word is final, and any form of disobedience or disrespect on my part is quickly addressed, often with the cane. I see some couples having endless arguments and constantly clashing. That feels like such a waste of energy. I want my Mistress to be happy, and I will do anything to make that happen.

Many people say to me, “Oh, you are so lucky to have found her.” Let there be no doubt, I feel incredibly lucky and happy to have found her. But it wasn’t easy. She made me work very hard for it. Mistress constantly has men in her life who want something from her, so I had to prove over and over again that all I wanted was her love and the chance to serve her.

I know it would never happen, but I do wonder what I would have done if she weren’t in my life. Being respectful and serving women can be done without kink, but it’s better to improve your chances of finding a dominant wife. Luckily, there’s now a new platform, Chyrpe. Chyrpe is a dating app for people looking for a Female-Led Relationship. It’s beautiful that this aspect is clear from the start, allowing you to focus on forming a connection. We truly are living in a wonderful digital world. If you haven’t found your dominant love of your life yet, give it a go and find your love.

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Femdom Ball 2024

Madame Caramel & Joris

Last week it was finally time for the Femdom Ball 2024. As always Mistress changed the format a little bit to make it even a better event. This year we started with a “Meet and Greet”. On a beautiful rooftop in East London we gathered to start of the long weekend. We started with some sun and it was all about catching up. Mistress was quickly talking to her friends and I joined the other boys for a few beers and a good chat, no kink we almost looked vanilla. But almost all ladies had one or more keys around their neck. It so powerful to see the keys and I knew I wasn’t the only one locked for his Mistress.

The next day it was high tea for the Ladies. I was very busy with work. On Saturday we slept in, had lunch and start to dress up. Of course Kalida dropped by for Mistress make-up. That was as always perfect! Time to go to the venue, of course nothing was ready and I could feel Mistress was a bit nervous. Everybody was working hard and a hour later everything was ready. I was in charge of the music again, luckily this time I could just connect with bluetooth so It should be better than last year.

The moment was there the first Ladies arrive, it is such a special moment. I know most of them via Mistress of Twitter wearing fetish seeing them in their beautiful long dresses is something else. I love standing next to Mistress when the Ladies arrive with their subs. We are standing in the middle of London in a hall build to enforce patriarchy and everything is about female beauty and power. The ladies loved and served by their mostly male subs. It is such a powerful sight. It always makes me so proud of my Mistress Wife that she makes this possible let Matriarchy shine.

But I could stand there for long, I had work to do. I needed to get the music for the shows. Some models didn’t show up and I was asked to find a replacement. We needed 4 boys with the same height for one of the shows. Everybody needed to ask something. I did my best to fix everything or at least making sure to shield my Mistress.

We started on time with a welcome word from our Mistress of ceremonies Lady Scarlet and the first show started. It was a flamenco show, I loved to female power Miss Lucia put into her dance. You could see all the Ladies enjoying and the mood of the evening was set. Next we had two fashion shows. That was some beautiful fetish outfits that made the models so beautiful!. I focused on the music and Mistress and it all went fine. The talented Mistress Veinne did a monologue as Medusa. That was a breath taking performance talking about female power and energy, I can just say wow, that was amazing!

The ladies where getting lots of canapes but the boys had to wait. I also didn’t drink anything during the ball. I needed my full focus to get everything going for Mistress. Next was the charity raffle. There where so many amazing gifts. I had my eyes on high quality single tail whip, Mistress could do some damage with that. I also loved the Sardax drawing. I ended up with a new sounding set, let’s hope Mistress put it to good use. So many Ladies had such beautiful gifts it was a great success.

We are already at the end of the ball but not before Goddess Phoenix awarded lifetime achievements awards to several Mistresses. Not everybody was at the ball but Mistress Ezada proudly accepted hers and of course my Mistress Madame Caramel. It is so good to see that hard work for the Femdom community is recognized and awarded. Well done Mistress.



That was the end, time to clean up and go to the after party. Finally I could eat, drink and come back to earth. After an hour I was ready for the party. There was lot’s of play so many whips where cracking on the subs. They where holding on while the Mistresses had big smiles seeing the boys taking the whip. The music was great, the food was good everybody was happy what a great ending for the celebration of Female Domination, thank you Mistress!

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77 days locked

On May 25th Mistress ordered me to be locked. As written in my previous blog I am used to be locked when Mistress travels. But this is the longest I ever been locked for my Mistress. The record was 48 days and we are now at day 77. I spent all that time except for 2 weekends without Mistress.

Not only does she keeps me chaste she also makes me work out and diet. I now run every weekday for 50 minutes. It is very difficult and I have to run very slow to keep going but I can now do it with two small breaks. The result of Mistress her work is very visible I now lost 7kg.

The chastity never becomes easy. I still wake up every night in pain I haven’t had a good night sleep for the last 3 months. I am so tired and have to keep myself together not to snap at work. At the beginning I felt very submissive to Mistress and connected but that is gone.

At the moment I don’t feel submissive at all, I found my routine, waking up early, run, work being to tried to do anything in the evening. I need all my energy just to make it trough the day. Mistress didn’t sent me to an other Mistress this time. I like the pain play but it also makes me miss Mistress a good whipping resets the mind.

Mistress is now finally returning on Sunday. My current project at work is in a critical phase so I couldn’t go to London to meet her. But on Thursday we will be united again. I have to say I look forward to it but I am also scarred, will she release me or will she just tease me till I completely crack? I don’t mind loosing it, but I am scarred that Mistress will not forgive me when I do.

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International Women’s day 2018

I am not a big fan of special days for a subject. I don’t like valentines day because I love my Mistress every day a little bit more and don’t need a special day to remind me of my love. It would be great if we didn’t need a special day for Women but unfortunately it is still needed for most of us. We still live in a white male society, woman and people of color are still a minority as our decision makers. I we look at our government most of them are privileged white males. We see a shift because of populism but I don’t think that anybody sees that as a good thing.

Do I believe in a matriarchal society? No, not for everybody. I would work for me, I love my female led relationship. It makes a relationship so much easier. I don’t like making small decisions, I don’t like discussions, I don’t like conflict with my partner. Mistress makes the daily decisions, we don’t have discussions Mistress is always right, a conflict is over when the whipping starts. This doesn’t mean that Mistress doesn’t respect my opinion. I feel listened to, loved and respected, how many people can say that?

Still I understand that people are different and that different forms of relationships are equal to mine, even traditional male dominated relations.
That should be the goal of this day. Every individual should think for themselves, do I give the women in my life an equal chance? If you are in the position to act, do you act on gender or merit? I am very guilty in this area, because I always go for the female option. I don’t feel comfortable with most males and let that guide me in my friendships and business.

Lets make a step to true democracy and that starts with making sure that our representatives in government and business are a reflection of the real society.

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The love and hate of being in Chastity

I am now 6 years in a Female Led Relationship and Mistress controlled my orgasms from the very first day. It was one of the first things she said, “no cumming without my permission”. It where a few simple words but with a huge impact. It was part of my morning shower ritual; shave, wash, wank. I didn’t really enjoyed it, it was just part of the deal. When I wasn’t tired I would often had a wank in the evening too, watching some bdsm porn. Mistress put an end to all that taking over full control over my body and mind. I liked that, it made me feel close to Mistress but of course the first year I had some hick ups. Mistress made me pay cumtax or whipped me till I promised never to cum again without her consent. That only works for a month and then I would fail her again. Mistress decided it was time for chastity. Because I fly up and down to London all the time I bought my very first bon4, the large version of course. Proudly I wore it under my vanilla clothes and all was good. The trouble was a night, every night my hard-on woke me up and I was in pain. After 3 weeks I was a broken man, horny and tired as hell. Mistress released me for the first time and I was never so great full. I felt the power she had in locking me up it was almost more than I could handle.

Chastity made me afraid. As a masochist I know how to deal with pain, pain is all consuming, it takes over your body and mind. But goes away and leaving a friendly glow of love. Chastity was a different game, it didn’t go away, stays with you for weeks, months as long as Mistress wants. There is no escape just the knowledge that you are owned by your Mistress. After the first lockup I didn’t came ever again without Mistress permission. When I am really horny I edge myself or put nipple clamps till the pain is to much. All things I deserve punishment for but the line is cumming, that is only when Mistress gives it to me.

Over the years, the desire to cum has been greatly reduced. I am not that bothered anymore with cumming, don’t get me wrong I am still a very sexual person. But release can be in so many forms. When Mistress wants an orgasm it is about that and I don’t need one in return. I am happy when I can help achieving hers. Now Mistress let me cum an average once a month and I am very happy with that.

Chastity is still a very important part of our relationship. When Mistress travels for a longer time she locks me up. I now learned that a smaller device is better for me but I will never truly get use to it. The emotions are still all over the place after just a few days locked. It is not about not cumming anymore, it is about the constant pain and sleep deprivation. I am always tired and go to bed as soon as I can. Fall a sleep in seconds but never reaches REM sleep. When I do, I get woken up by the pain. People need REM sleep to order there brain, without it they go slowing crazy.

Dealing with emotions is hard and I fail all the time. But I learned to only focus only on my love for Mistress. The wonderful relationship we have where she totally controls my body and mind. That makes me smile and makes me miss Mistress even more but does gives me a happy feeling. All negative thoughts I push to the background. That would be fine but Mistress loves to control me. She sent me a picture kissing an other boy and I’ll be crying for hours wondering if she still loves me. On the other hand just a small message from Mistress that she loves me, makes me smile for hours. It is that total control over me that Mistress loves about putting me in chastity.

Chastity is a strong tool in any form of D/s relation and I understand why so many Mistresses use it as a training tool. For me I hate the little thing that is now between my legs but when Mistress returns home after being 6 weeks in Dubai and I see her smiling with my keys between her breasts teasing me with her beautiful body. I know I am owned by a powerful Dominatrix and I love every second of it.

Join me in Chastity!

If you are not ready, you can watch some chastity clips and dream about the moment Mistress locks you too.

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Femdom Ball 2018 – sponsor a Lady

On October 6th is for the 4th time “The Femdom Ball” organized by Madame Caramel. It is a unique fetish event where glamor and of course the wonderful power of Women are central. The dress code is gala for the Ladies and all black for the boys. This gives a unique atmosphere. Don’t worry there is fully equipped dungeon room where naughty boys get punished. Just like all the previous editions they fully expect a sold out event in October.

If you are not in a female led relationship and attend as couple I strongly suggest to sponsor a Lady and be at her beg and call during this event. It is the perfect gift for your Mistress, surprise her with a ticket to the ball and see her smile. It is not only the evening itself but you can also take her shopping for the perfect dress go with her for a pedicure/manicure. It will give you the opportunity to serve her and show your devotion. So get your tickets today!