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The Mixed feelings about Chastity

On my blogs I already wrote a lot about chastity. That is not so strange because it is a powerful tool in any Female Led Relationship. As men we are programmed to spread our seed as often as possible. I am no exception to that. For years every day I started the day with a wank even when I was in a relationship and intercourse was a possibility I still wanked a lot just as a habit, it was part my routine.

When Mistress came in my life one of the first things she said was no cumming without permission. At first I taught it was hot, I was craving all my life to be controlled by a powerful dominatrix and Mistress fulfilled my wishes and more. After a few months and not being with Mistress all the time, I made my mistakes. Mistress responded quickly with severe punishment and of course for the first time chastity. A bon4 silicon with a plastic lock so I am still able to fly to Mistress and back to Holland.

From that moment chastity has been a big part of our D/s relationship. Mistress likes the control it gives her and I really like to be controlled by Mistress. It gives me a feeling of being owned. I really feel hers when I am locked and it feels good to have somebody that takes care of me. It also puts me at ease when I am with other women, Mistresses or not. Nothing can happen, I am claimed and locked.

On the other side, chastity is really difficult, the not cumming I can deal with that is for my Mistress. But the chastity cage also prevents a good sleep and that has effect on everything. I am always tired and can’t process the daily events during my R.E.M. sleep. It results that I am emotional, grumpy and have difficulties to concentrate. That has an effect on my work and friendships.

But more important is that it effect my thinking about Mistress. When I am lock with her it is fine, she corrects me when I have a difficult time and the whip is a great mind changer. When she is for months in the Middle East enjoying herself with her rich clients and toy boys my mind can go very dark. It always scares me and I am so afraid that one day I will do something stupid. I always have to calm myself down and remind me that she loves me and that it will be fine when we are back together.

But I wouldn’t want to miss it in our relationship. I think my Mistress is the most beautiful woman in the world and I crave her touch. But when I am in chastity and she teases me till I cry. The extreme power she has over me and the love I feel for her is one of the most beautiful things in my life. So thank you for controlling me my Mistress.

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6 weeks together with Mistress

Because of our current working situation Mistress and I are never together for long. Only during the holidays we are 3 weeks together. At the beginning of the lockdown, I flew to Mistress with one of the last planes from Eindhoven. Now we are 6 weeks together and it is a great time.

I have to be honest I was a little bit scared to be so long together while I also have to work. Mistress always wants things to be done the moment she asks me something. During the day I am always on video calls and can not attend to my Mistress. It took a while to get used to and she sometimes still interrupts but she respects my work.

As soon as I am done Mistress always have to reassure her authority. Massaging her feet, give me a whipping are record some content for her onlyfans. I have to say it is amazing to serve her like this. I am now typing this with my ass still hurting from her last spanking. Looking at her sitting on the sofa, no fetish clothing but she looks so beautiful. Any second she can click her fingers and my world changes.

The difficult thing is the cumming control, Mistress had me in chastity for some time. But released me last week and just gave me a ruined orgasm. I am so used to not cum for weeks. But now Mistress always looks so amazing this cum control is so difficult. I know better not to beg for it, but if Mistress would allow me I would beg every day for attention, but I know better and wait till Mistress grants me permission.

People always say I am lucky and I am. Not because I am in D/s relation, but that I am in a loving relationship where we both can be express our love and kinks without holding back. Thank you Mistress for being in my life.

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Miss Kitty Rei

For the 9 years I have been to Mistress I have seen her daughter growing up from a kid to a teenager and lately to a wonderful powerful woman. On the surface you would say they are completely different personality but in fact they have so many things in common.

They both are strong believers in the the superiority of females. They are both strong minded and don’t take anything from no-one including each other. Miss Kitty Rei is now 19 years old and is start to share her female power on onlyfans.

I am 100% focused on my Mistress and I am happy that she doesn’t share me. But a few days ago we did our first photo shoot with Mistress and Miss Kitty Rei together. Of course I want to share some of the results.

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Vote for Madame Caramel

As a sub and partner I am of course bias as hell. She is the woman that loves and whips me and of course she is the best in my eyes. But let me explain what I have seen over the past 9 years.

I have seen many subs come and go. You have a few categories. First you have the one that just for once want to have a session with the great Madame Caramel. They book a session expresses there kinks and come with an open mind to enjoy. Mistress will deliver a beautiful session that they will remember and treasure for the rest of their lives.

Next you have the fetishist that just wants their kinks to be satisfied. That is not what Mistress does. She doesn’t deliver for money, she is living the lifestyle and always put her own wishes before the boys. These boys normally come and go quickly.

But what I want to talk about are the lifestyle subs. This is the area where Mistress truly excels. Come to her and submit open and freely accepting the training she will give you. You will not only experience what it is to serve in a femdom household in time she will give you the chance to be part of her life. Serving her when she wants, attending to her needs.

I have seen this happen many times and they all have to go, including me, trough the learning phases.

  • Enthusiastic no clue what this is all about, trying and failing to serve Mistress
  • Understanding how difficult it is and thinking that they will never be a good boy
  • Understanding that it needs constant training, accepting that you always have to learn.
  • Accepting your place in Mistress her life as her trained and obedient servant

Mistress is an expert in motivation using your and her kinks to go through all of it. Till you are really hers. Trained to sub that knows exactly how to treat his Mistress.

Mistress is not selfish she could keep her slaves and use them to life the comfortable of a Goddess she is. Instead I have seen her matching many Mistresses and subs giving them the happiness of a female led relationship.

As an example I would like to give you Susie Monday. Susie is longer with Mistress then I am. But I had the honor of seeing many phases of her training. Susie started as TV fetishist looking to be slut in a safe environment. That is exactly what Mistress gave her. She used Susie a lot in her dungeon when a sissy was needed. But that was balanced with strict training in the house. Mistress taught her strict protocol serving her and her friends. Of course chastity training was the basis, being locked gives you focus on Mistress. Susie also went through the phases of submission and it is only recently that she fully accept her purpose in Mistress life that was also the moment she received Mistress collar making her forever hers.

I know many Mistresses and only few can train a man to their full potential. Mistress her collared slave are strong, happy, successful man knowing what they want in life and that is serving a Goddess.

So please vote for Mistress at the UK Fetish Awards for best Mistress, (click on the stars) While you are there also vote for the best Dungeon in London, The Hoxton Dungeon Suite.

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Daily cup of tea

Normally I try not to state my opinion to much on twitter. It is not my place, I am on twitter to support my Mistress. But during our holiday Mistress encouraged me to give my opinion to the daily cup of tea of Madam Poison. Every day she post a statement where you can comment.

I have to say I am starting to get addicted to this daily treat. I give my honest opinion to the statement of the day. I know Mistress follows every step I do online and she hasn’t punished me yet. I guess she entertained by the conversation that is going on.

So I would like to ask you to join the conversation. Twitter lately is an advertisement platform and not a social medium as it should be. So join the conversation and make twitter social again!
Of course always be very respectful to the ladies they are superior to us if you don’t agree it is more likely that you didn’t understand her point.

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77 days locked

On May 25th Mistress ordered me to be locked. As written in my previous blog I am used to be locked when Mistress travels. But this is the longest I ever been locked for my Mistress. The record was 48 days and we are now at day 77. I spent all that time except for 2 weekends without Mistress.

Not only does she keeps me chaste she also makes me work out and diet. I now run every weekday for 50 minutes. It is very difficult and I have to run very slow to keep going but I can now do it with two small breaks. The result of Mistress her work is very visible I now lost 7kg.

The chastity never becomes easy. I still wake up every night in pain I haven’t had a good night sleep for the last 3 months. I am so tired and have to keep myself together not to snap at work. At the beginning I felt very submissive to Mistress and connected but that is gone.

At the moment I don’t feel submissive at all, I found my routine, waking up early, run, work being to tried to do anything in the evening. I need all my energy just to make it trough the day. Mistress didn’t sent me to an other Mistress this time. I like the pain play but it also makes me miss Mistress a good whipping resets the mind.

Mistress is now finally returning on Sunday. My current project at work is in a critical phase so I couldn’t go to London to meet her. But on Thursday we will be united again. I have to say I look forward to it but I am also scarred, will she release me or will she just tease me till I completely crack? I don’t mind loosing it, but I am scarred that Mistress will not forgive me when I do.

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The slave positions

Almost 3 years ago Mistress Ezada introduced Mistress to the slave positions. I immediately liked it. It was fun to practice the positions with Mistress. Of course I made lot of mistakes and Mistress never hesitated to correct me with her whip.

Now I am so used of Mistress using the hand signals to instruct me. At any moment she can give me the sign for waiting position or to present my collar. It is a great way of stopping the vanilla world and focus completely on my Mistress. Not using words makes it more intimate, more special, it eliminate the option to disobey her completely.

Mistress always use hand signals when we are playing in a club. It is like our very own secret language that remotely controls me, it always make me feel very special, like a puppet on a string.
If you want to see Madame Caramel I suggest you learn the slave positions. She will like it that you take the effort to learn her way and you will be part of the secret society that knows the positions.


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The love and hate of being in Chastity

I am now 6 years in a Female Led Relationship and Mistress controlled my orgasms from the very first day. It was one of the first things she said, “no cumming without my permission”. It where a few simple words but with a huge impact. It was part of my morning shower ritual; shave, wash, wank. I didn’t really enjoyed it, it was just part of the deal. When I wasn’t tired I would often had a wank in the evening too, watching some bdsm porn. Mistress put an end to all that taking over full control over my body and mind. I liked that, it made me feel close to Mistress but of course the first year I had some hick ups. Mistress made me pay cumtax or whipped me till I promised never to cum again without her consent. That only works for a month and then I would fail her again. Mistress decided it was time for chastity. Because I fly up and down to London all the time I bought my very first bon4, the large version of course. Proudly I wore it under my vanilla clothes and all was good. The trouble was a night, every night my hard-on woke me up and I was in pain. After 3 weeks I was a broken man, horny and tired as hell. Mistress released me for the first time and I was never so great full. I felt the power she had in locking me up it was almost more than I could handle.

Chastity made me afraid. As a masochist I know how to deal with pain, pain is all consuming, it takes over your body and mind. But goes away and leaving a friendly glow of love. Chastity was a different game, it didn’t go away, stays with you for weeks, months as long as Mistress wants. There is no escape just the knowledge that you are owned by your Mistress. After the first lockup I didn’t came ever again without Mistress permission. When I am really horny I edge myself or put nipple clamps till the pain is to much. All things I deserve punishment for but the line is cumming, that is only when Mistress gives it to me.

Over the years, the desire to cum has been greatly reduced. I am not that bothered anymore with cumming, don’t get me wrong I am still a very sexual person. But release can be in so many forms. When Mistress wants an orgasm it is about that and I don’t need one in return. I am happy when I can help achieving hers. Now Mistress let me cum an average once a month and I am very happy with that.

Chastity is still a very important part of our relationship. When Mistress travels for a longer time she locks me up. I now learned that a smaller device is better for me but I will never truly get use to it. The emotions are still all over the place after just a few days locked. It is not about not cumming anymore, it is about the constant pain and sleep deprivation. I am always tired and go to bed as soon as I can. Fall a sleep in seconds but never reaches REM sleep. When I do, I get woken up by the pain. People need REM sleep to order there brain, without it they go slowing crazy.

Dealing with emotions is hard and I fail all the time. But I learned to only focus only on my love for Mistress. The wonderful relationship we have where she totally controls my body and mind. That makes me smile and makes me miss Mistress even more but does gives me a happy feeling. All negative thoughts I push to the background. That would be fine but Mistress loves to control me. She sent me a picture kissing an other boy and I’ll be crying for hours wondering if she still loves me. On the other hand just a small message from Mistress that she loves me, makes me smile for hours. It is that total control over me that Mistress loves about putting me in chastity.

Chastity is a strong tool in any form of D/s relation and I understand why so many Mistresses use it as a training tool. For me I hate the little thing that is now between my legs but when Mistress returns home after being 6 weeks in Dubai and I see her smiling with my keys between her breasts teasing me with her beautiful body. I know I am owned by a powerful Dominatrix and I love every second of it.

Join me in Chastity!

If you are not ready, you can watch some chastity clips and dream about the moment Mistress locks you too.